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7 Ways VH1 is Destroying the Black Community (and Degrading Women)

Dr Boyce Watkins wrote the article below tiled, 7 Ways VH1 is destroying the Black Community.  I couldn’t agree more with all that he said. Not only are these minstrel shows destroying the Black community, but tarnishing the gender of women as well.   I would often find myself watching in horror as the story lines of these clueless characters unfolded week after week, until finally I simply stopped watching. Several episodes of recorded shows such as; Love & Hip Hop, Basketball Wives, Real Housewives of Atlanta, etc., sit un-watched in my DVR because I am appalled & at times disgusted by what I see & hear. Quite honestly, I am fed up with the whole franchise of foolishness. The article below tells the truth. Read, comment, share…

DR BOYCE WATKINS: 7 WAYS VH1 IS DESTROYING THE BLACK COMMUNITY

Due to their interesting choices in programming, VH1 might be better referred to as “The Evil Empire.” Their endless stream of reality TV shows tend to focus on taking otherwise irrelevant black people and making them as recognizable as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr (I’m serious: There are black kids who could identify a Basketball Wife before they could identify Dr. King – don’t even try Malcolm X or Harriet Tubman). There is then this awkward rat race, where famous people with no talent end up doing outrageous and embarrassing things so they can remain in the public eye.

It’s sad. It’s annoying. It’s degrading. Sometimes, it’s just downright embarrassing. Not that we should spend all of our time being worried about what white people think about us, but our people are far more dignified and diverse than the coonery that reality TV executives love to market and elevate. Bill Cosby’s shows used to make black kids want to attend HBCUs, but VH1′s shows are putting our kids into rehab and STD clinics. This is not a good tradeoff for our people.

So, here are a few ways that VH1 just might a psychological version of the Tuskegee Experiment:

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1) Promoting sloppy and tragic decision-making: A teacher recently told me about a little girl in her first grade class who was asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” She said, “I want to be a basketball wife” (as if this were a real profession). Stories like this remind us that our kids are always watching and that the entertainment they absorb is (as Dr. Christopher Emdin at Columbia University so eloquently explains) a form of education. Not only are they learning about possible career choices, they are also learning about life choices: Marrying the wrong person, having a baby at the wrong time, spending their money in the wrong way and valuing the wrong things. Then, when that little girl is 31 years old with no education and four baby’s daddies, and can’t figure out why she’s so depressed that she can’t get out of bed in the morning, we sit and wonder how she ended up in such a hopeless predicament.

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2) You’re now helping people to sell sexx tapes? It’s one thing that the 44-year old single mother Mimi Faust is celebrating her inner freak by promoting a dirty tape, that’s her right. But it’s another thing that VH1 is helping to promote the tape in order to improve ratings for the show. Maybe this is where the FCC should step in and say, “Hmmm, maybe we shouldn’t have a show on the public airwaves that mass promotes the idea of making a dirty tape in order to pay the bills.” Maybe someone needs to stand in front of their building with picket signs. Maybe a group of psychologists should come forward and share the findings of research showing that marketing messages actually do impact the viewer. Should something happen, or should we just act like none of this makes a difference in our society? I won’t even talk about Mimi’s poor daughter, whose friends at school are going to be able to look her naked mother up on the Internet. I hope she knows how to defend herself from bullies, since the rumors in middle school are going to be so vicious that she’ll need both Dr. Phll AND Iyanla Vanzant to get over the trauma. I need to call my mother up and thank her for not becoming a 44-year old pοrn star.

3) Making ridiculous people into prominent members of the African American community: Seriously, can you please explain what talent most of the members of Basketball Wives possess other than being able to get a rich athlete to sleep with them? Wait…maybe that is a special talent….the kind that men pay for on street corners late at night. From what I understand, most of the “Basketball Wives” were never wives. Shouldn’t they just be called “Basketball Baby’s mamas” instead? Most reality TV stars aren’t famous for having a talent…instead, they’re just famous for being famous.

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4) Do black people REALLY need more violence right now? Most of the Reality TV shows feature some kind of drama and the celebration of violence as a way to promote themselves to the public. Porsha Stewart hitting Kendra Moore upside the head had people talking. Evelyn Lozada got famous for climbingup on tables and chasing people around the room like a horny zoo animal. Rappers get famous by talking about how they got shot. Effectively, we’ve turned the most tragic part of the black experience into a comfortable and profitable norm, and big, white corporations are able to profit from it. If I were a white man running one of these companies, I’d probably spend my time thinking, “What in the hell is wrong with these people?”

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5) We’re becoming a pack of brain dead vegetables obsessing over things that really don’t matter: My friend (just last night) told me that her friends make fun of her for not watching “Basketball Wives” and the “Real Housewives of Atlanta.” I told her that it’s OK that she has better things to do, like working toward her goals, taking care of her kids, going to the gym or planning a mission to Mars. The point is that, maybe we have to ask: Is it a GOOD thing that black people watch more television than everyone else? Maybe it’s not so healthy to sit in one spot and stare at a screen like a mentally-disabled puppy for 8 or 9 hours a day. That might not be good for the spirit: A consumer/viewer is a bystander in life. Rather than making things happen, they are WATCHING things happen. Your life isn’t what you make it out to be….it’s what some television producer has decided that it’s going to be. You are effectively living in the matrix.

6) Yes, let’s start celebrating broken families and pretending that they are normal: A dude with nine babies with seven women? Yea, he’s a playa. The mother who can barely take care of the kids she keeps making with men who don’t know how to wear a condom? God tells us not to judge, so you should just mind your own business.
Anybody who doesn’t understand the devastating impact of broken families in the African American community is absolutely insane. White America did this to us with the War on Drugs, which is why Michelle Alexander and I both agree that reparations should be paid for the mass incarceration holocaust. But to have the same network that owns VH1 and BET (Viacom) celebrate the genocide of our families is entirely unacceptable.
7) The selling of dysfunctional relationships: I often wonder how many little girls are seeing the women on Love & Hip-Hop make some of the most horrific relationship decisions and thinking, “I wanna also be with a promiscuous rapper with 40 tattoos and six babies mamas, who smokes a pound of weed every day when I grow up.” The hypermasculinity of corporatized hip-hop has taught young black men that being dismissive and disrespectful toward women is the way to express your manhood. We know that the opposite is actually true: Self-discipline, education, and honorably protecting those you love is what makes you a man. This feminization of black men is making us the weakest in our communities when we should be the strongest. High-testosterone women who grow up expecting to be both the mother and the father of their kids don’t help the problem either. We MUST learn how to have healthy relationships if we are going to survive as a people.55

I wonder if there is ever going to be an episode where someone is killed from domestic violence or itgets out that one of the cast members has caught HIV…..I’m sure VH1 will celebrate those ratings. Whether it’s physically, spiritually, or emotionally, they seem to love watching black people die.

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131 comments on “7 Ways VH1 is Destroying the Black Community (and Degrading Women)

  1. monica
    April 23, 2014

    These NIGGAS ARE DEGRATING THEMSELVES, NOT ME. If this is what makeup, hair and fancy clothes get you, I PASS!!! SILLY RABBITS TRICKS ARE FOR KIDS.

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    • Bodean
      April 29, 2014

      Just about to say the same thing!!! Nobody cracked them upside the head and dragged them off like Cavemen.. Then took them down to the set, turned the camera on, and said act a fool!! Stop giving them excuses and make them take responsibility for their actions!! So sick of this degrading women crap!! Make up your minds!! Are you going to be strong, like so many of you claim to be, and use the brains in your head?!! Or you going to play the victim?!! You can’t have both!!!

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      • Toiah
        April 30, 2014

        Right. They are selling themselves short for the almighty dollar. But when will we get some GOOD and worthwhile content to be inspired by?

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      • Asia
        April 30, 2014

        However, one must realize that watching these shows, not promoting positive african-american shows and not taking responsibility for you race (because it’s obvious they aren’t going to) you guys are a part of the problem. Unless someone acts on these horrible realities we will remain in the same position. It sucks that you have to be responsible for yourself and others but it is the reality that we live in. It’s easy to say “Oh it’s not me so I don’t care”, it’s easy to not take responsibility. Let’s take the hard decision for once, let’s take responsibility for once.

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      • zocacolaa
        May 26, 2014

        That’s beside the point. Why are these the only predominantly black shows on VH1? There are ratchet, fame-hungry fools in every race. Why is it that most of these kinds of people that actually get airtime for their ratchetry are the black ones? VH1 needs to reevaluate its life.

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      • SSDD
        May 27, 2014

        AGREED! And let me also add that, per my Facebook newsfeed, it’s adults that are posting and sharing reality show paraphernalia so it’s not just kids that these shows are influencing. But back to Bodean’s point, no one held a gun to these so-called stars head to do these shows. Yes, VH1 is partly to blame, but if you knowingly let a thief in your house without any supervision and you notice your valuables are missing when you come home who’s fault is that??? A major issue in our community is ACCOUNTABILITY. We all want to place blame on the government, white people, the struggle…etc…etc. My parents taught me to work hard for mine’s and respect people. NOT get respect and achieve success through reparations owed from long ago.

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      • Zoë Gyampoh
        May 27, 2014

        @Asia: You are right; viewers are a part of the problem. But the thing is, we already know that. We already chastise people for watching these derogatory, substanceless shows. We also need to let the network acknowledge the fact that its one-sided, negative portrayal of black people is problematic. I would not have this problem with the network if it had only one or two ratchet, predominantly black shows on it, or if these ratchet shows predominantly had cast members of other races, because then it would not appear as though it were showing a narrow, one-sided depiction of black Americans. Then, I suppose, we could solely chastise those who watched those shows.

        But VH1 is erring by promoting predominantly-black shows in an only-negative light. People like seeing people who look like them on TV. I would like to see more main-character, glamorous, successful black women on TV. But the fact that all of VH1 portrayal’s are negative says something very negative about the network itself.

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    • Toddria
      May 26, 2014

      If you read the article…you can clearly see the author focuses more on the effects it has in our children and our overall community not you individually… I hope we as ADULTS are past influence… but what about our children…we all had idols growing up and they were well worthy of the title…but Yes it is very disturbing when a little girl says she wants to be a basketball wife…

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      • babs0520
        May 26, 2014

        I absolutely agree with you. The teens of this age have nothing in their heads than nudity, sex and drugs. It never use to be so. What are the regulatory bodies saying about all this, or don’t they fear for their own kids ?

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      • babs0520
        May 26, 2014

        I absolutely agree with you Toddria. The teens of this age have nothing in their heads than nudity, sex and drugs. It never use to be so. What are the regulatory bodies saying about all this, or don’t they fear for their own kids ?

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      • Toiah
        May 28, 2014

        Sadly, some adults are not past influence…

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      • Tyroc
        June 5, 2014

        If you’re letting your kids watch Basketball Wives, what’s wrong with you? If you’re part of the overall community that are treating these maniacs as pillars of the hood, then shame on you and yours.

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  2. Von
    April 30, 2014

    I totally agree. At some point people have
    To decide for themselves is this healthy
    for me to portra myself this way on TV
    and is it healthy for me to support this
    Foolishness.. Beware the love of money
    Is the root of evil. I feel all the actors and
    Actresses have fallen for the trap and they
    don’t even know it.

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    • Toiah
      April 30, 2014

      I agree 100%

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  3. stacey
    April 30, 2014

    Hello
    With all due respect when are we going to accept accountability for our actions? Noone can sell our stories unless we give them a story to tell. Lets stop acting like victims and start becoming educated members of our own society and even broader. We are no linger victims but yet we choose to be participants in this dirty industry that not only perperuates black famle stereotypes but steroeryoes in general. I take full responsibility for me today and how I am portayed in the media… Please begin or cintinue to be mindful of your actions and what you post and the influence it has on others. No judgement intended!

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    • Toiah
      April 30, 2014

      I am certainly not saying these people are victims. They know good and well that they are selling a story for money. But at what point, does it become enough? Is money worth their own self respect and dignity. Is it worth the bad influence and horrid portrayal of African Americans and women?

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      • James A. Jackson
        May 20, 2014

        I don’t understand how anyone could disagree…… The Cosby show effected many people back in the day. People actually thought Hillman was a college and wanted to go there. When is the last time that you saw a television show with a positive black mother and father and children being portrayed ?So you mean to tell me that all of these videos that we see on the internet of young women fighting is not inspired by reality t.v.? We are educated hence this conversation…… Yes people like Mona Scott are victimizing the community by putting out these ultra negative images of black women and men. Even the show the Doctor’s show educated black women acting a fool….so what does this say to it audience ? No matter if you are from the hood or educated put black folks on television and they will act a fool. Is there any wonder why shows with T.I. and his wife Tiny are not in abundance ? I work in television industry and I know how shows are put together trust me they executive go for what can make money. You think you take responsibility when it comes to the media and it’s images of black folks…… until you own a television station or radio station there is no way that you can control what’s put on television. To me this is no different than the slave trade. There where black slave owner’s that sold their own folks into slavery and the same thing with producers in Hollywood. selling products to executive that are negative and damaging.

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  4. Welp
    May 2, 2014

    This article should probably be named “Reality TV is degrading the Black community”. VH1 does not broadcast all of the shows named. Just a thought, do your research before writing a defamatory article.

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    • Toiah
      May 2, 2014

      You are 100% correct. Please note this article was written by Dr. Boyce Watkins. I simply shared it via my blog. And if you think this article is defamatory, what do you think of the shows?

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    • Esta Fiesta
      May 3, 2014

      You took the words right out of my mouth. Dr. Watkins is entitled to find these shows degrading but it would be best if she actually researched WHO she was slandering to make sure she had her facts straight. The same applies to anyone sharing her article.

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      • dani
        May 13, 2014

        You are not providing any evidence to defend the shows based on the content. You are trying to make a point that the shows aren’t all shown on vh1 but does that have anything to do with the type of shows they are? No it does not. You literally have no point.

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      • Kyle Fam Finley
        June 2, 2014

        For future reference…Dr. Boyce Watkins is a man…

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  5. Richelle D. Groves
    May 2, 2014

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    I agree that these shows play a part in how black women are viewed by “other” people. I also agree that it may be raising some of our kids, but lets be honest, it ALL BEGINS at home. The mother of that 5 year old should have had better judgement than to let her very impressionable daughter watch the show. Also, what about the RAP music, which is in my opinion is must worse than the shows. The level of disrepsect in some of these songs can make a Basketball Wife show look like Mary Poppins. Truth is, if they took ALLLL these shows off the air today, our community would not change one bit for the better. Our issues start and end with the LACK of parenting, us always playing victim, us always looking for the easy way out, and the Black Church!

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    • Toiah
      May 2, 2014

      Richelle, I have been saying for years that certain hip hop music is absolutely misogynistic. Perhaps my next article will address this very fact. And you are right. It does begin at home. TV good or bad, should be the major influence in children;s lives. Their parents/caretakers should!

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      • Devon Crosby
        May 14, 2014

        No one with any sense would deny that it starts at home but certainly this type of programming (and i purposely use that word) has the potential to deteriorate good parenting let alone mediocre parenting. If VH1 isn’t the broadcaster of each of these mentioned reality programs, it doesn’t matter. What matters is the company that owns BET, a network that should be celebrating the positive side of the black achievements, is peddling this mental toxin. Aaron Mc Gruder made reference to BET/Viacom’s Promotion of negative stereotypes of Black America via remaking a black version of every “shitty” MTV program. I guess they just move it from BET to VH1…. and made it even “shittier”

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    • Lee Davis
      May 4, 2014

      Unfortunetly our issues dont just end with us, there are a multitude of forces at work and what i’m tired of hearing from alot of our people is this pick yourself up by the bootstrap mentality with out even mentioning racism white supremacy which is at the helm of it all, yes we as parents need to take responsibility and if you know your history that happens, but collectively we are loosing the battle. A grown ass adult should know that these shows and certain music is damaging, but what about the children and teens who dont know any better, what about the mothers and fathers who work all day and cant even afford to be at home to check what their children are watching. The music is just a symptom of what is going in the black communities, the poverty and disrespect and lack of respect for ourselves is a symptom of systematic racism, we have been taught to hate each other, So when your placing the blame make sure every party gets there just do and i rarely see anybody refer and place the blame on the institution which houses us, namely racism white supremacy which funds these shows and funds the bs music, there are better choices but they bank on the bullshit because they know what it does to us, And alot of us have no idea,

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      • Toiah
        May 4, 2014

        I agree that it starts at home. If morals are instilled from parents then these shows & music are less likely to be major influences in their lives. However, we live in the age of media & sadly music/TV is so readily available from a myriad of sources. Everyone is watching this mess!

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      • Kyle Fam Finley
        June 2, 2014

        Did you REALLY just blame racism/white supremacy for all of your problems?

        If racist white people really run the entire world like you claim they do, they why is my BLACK neighbor well educated with a good job, and taking good care of his beautiful family? Why is the president of the united states BLACK? Why did my best friend, who’s BLACK, just beat out 5 white people for a promotion at a very well established company? I don’t hear them blaming racism for their problems in life because they are willing to put in the work to get what they want out of life…

        Stop blaming white people for every problem that you, as an individual, have. Not EVERYTHING is white people’s fault..Yes, there is still racism in this world. And yes, its very unfortunate. BUT, not every problem you run into is caused by racist white people. You’re giving racism WAY too much credit.

        There’s an upper class of society, and a lower class of society. And im not talking about money. I’m talking about people that actually go out and put in the work to make their life better, and people who don’t. I know white people in both brackets, and i know black people in both brackets. So whatever bracket YOU fit in, you need to take FULL responsibility for.

        Yes, Racism might be a set-back, but if you think that racism is the ONLY reason that life isn’t going the way you’d like it to, then i feel BAD for you…

        And YES…I am white.

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    • Tosha Burton
      May 22, 2014

      Well said Richelle!

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      • Tosha Burton
        May 22, 2014

        I never like Basketball Wives because of all the strife. It did seem like the exploitation of fools tricked into showing themselves foolish on Tv because they are simple minded & fell for it.However, The Real Housewives of Atlanta seemed to celebrate strong women, show positive values such as marriage,family, a structured lifestyle,parenting, maturity. So I enjoy that show. There was no fighting until Porsha came along..but she did not seem to aspire to become educated nor mature like the other ladies; she is more superficial;concerned primarily with how her beauty can define her. She became the weakest link.Besides that aggressive, ridiculous night that made the men seem like uncivilized abusive barbarians.. the inappropriate couples’ night? I think that show had taste & tact.As far as BET, I thank God my children never had a taste for it, nor most rap music.One of my teen recently started taking an interest in certain rap music, but it is not the ‘hard core’ destructive negative ghetto stuff.As long as there’s a balance between good TV & exploitation, the shows are ok. The key is to spread the word to the actors & actresses of the best life to live& messgae to send to the world.

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    • Shemeca Biglow
      May 9, 2016

      Rochelle Groves, your comment is genius. You hit the nail right on the coffin with that one. Everything you said is exactly how I feel as well. The home upbringing is where children will be mostly influenced and the actions of what the parents allow their children to do. Teaching them right from jump early in life will develop values and morals.in children that will protect their minds from being influenced by trash tv when they do see it later in life such as their adolescent, teen, and young adult years.

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  6. Marcus Johnson
    May 2, 2014

    In their defense, they wouldn’t make these shows if people didn’t watch them. Absolutely, these shows exploit, distort, and embarrass the Black community and make a mockery of Black women, but your beef isn’t with the show creators, deviant though they may be. Let’s get people to stop watching this dreck. And let’s start with the Black community.

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    • Toiah
      May 2, 2014

      Marcus, as you know, the almighty dollar trumps morals and common sense most times. We love to be entertained. So we find ourselves stuck in the vortex of reality TV!

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    • Sheila Hudson
      May 4, 2014

      You’re absolutely right. Because if the rating goes down the shows will be cancel

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    • MuMu
      May 6, 2014

      Ever heard of classical conditioning?

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  7. Kenny
    May 2, 2014

    The characters on these reality shows do not represent me. I watched them and was taken back by the ignorance. Money does not equate class. These people are unhappy with themselves. They drink alcohol a lot, argue over insignificant things, value material things and cannot commit in any relationship from lovers to friendship. The words of the Teacher, son of David, king in Jerusalem: “Meaningless! Meaningless!” says the Teacher. “Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless.” What do people gain from all their labors at which they toil under the sun?Ecclesiastes 1. I am praying for God to deliver everyone!

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  8. Me
    May 4, 2014

    I agree that why I don’t watch these shows. Other races already think black people don’t know how to act and these shows play right into it. Yes the people on the show are embarrassing themselves and they choose to make a speculate of themselves but it doesn’t make the black comminuty look good as a whole. There is nothing funny nor cute about how they act on these shows. And as long as people continue to watch them they will continue to make this foolishness.

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  9. La Sha
    May 4, 2014

    Why is VH1 destroying only the black community? The white and Latino people on these shows act a ratchet ass fool, too. Why are black people the only ones who represent the entire community? I love me some Love & Hip Hop, but these people represent themselves, not all black people. The notion that small groups of people represent all is indoctrinated racism. Black people really need to scrap this idea.

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    • Toiah
      May 4, 2014

      I agree that it’s an issue for all races but since I am black & pro-black I can only speak on behalf of my race. And personally, I am disgusted with the way we have been portrayed in these shows.

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      • La Sha
        May 4, 2014

        These people don’t represent us. They represent themselves. Why take on someone else’s issues? I don’t know them, didn’t raise them and wouldn’t associate with them. I know folks that act like this, but I know many more who don’t. How can the few represent the many? That’s the white man’s teaching to us. No one looks at Britney Spears or Lindsay Lohan and applies their behavior to all white women.

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    • meanmcclean
      May 27, 2014

      The few represent the many when the few have millions of viewers tuning in week in week out. Your thought process is the reason why these shows continue to air and generate ratings. These shows are the reason that it was OK for Solange to assult Jay-z in an elevator. These shows are the reason that was even a relevant point for me to use in my argument to make a point. These shows glorify fighting, being a real B****, or a Real N****. The perpetuated use of the n-word disgusts me. Why would we as a people glorify or defend the use of such an ugly word? Why would we fight vigorously to determine who can and who can’t use it, while at the sametime glorify it through music and shows like these. It’s the definition of insanity. As awhile black people need to wake up. You may not associate yourself with these types of black folk, but best believe you are associated by your peers of other races on a daily. That’s why now it’s law to continue to fine and lock up black men for sagging their pants. I bet you think that’s OK as well? I’m not a fan of that look but to criminalize someone’s dress attire stomps all over our freedoms. Continue to live in denial that these shows have no influence.

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    • Pablo Sanchez
      May 29, 2014

      I bet you are the same loud obnoxious person on the train or in public making yourself an annoyance to all around. I can tell by your comment alone “I love me some” fill in the blank. You are raising a kid too? He’s in trouble.

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    • Nathan
      May 29, 2014

      You said it perfectly La Sha, White people (male or female) NEVER look at anyone as a representative of our people. Whether it’s Britney, Lindsey, Miley Cyrus, or Charlie Sheen, White people don’t go around saying “omg you’re embarrassing the White community” because White people think of themselves as individuals and not as an overall race. I think it would be in the Black Communities best interest to start doing the same. Among the African Americans that I respect dearly, like Maya Angelou and Oprah, you’ll never hear me say “wow, the black community must be amazing if they are apart of it” No instead I say THEY (the individuals) are amazing. You really should consider doing the same

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  10. Toiah
    May 4, 2014

    You are correct. It doesn’t represent all of us, but the problem is the way we are being portrayed… As money-hungry, fighting, drunkards who can’t have healthy relationships. I don’t know about you, but I am ready for some positive & entertaining content featuring black people… I’m over the foolishness.

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  11. brendan2k5
    May 4, 2014

    Nothing I didn’t already know.

    Black Trash TV has actually been around for at least 20 years now. I sounded the call in 1992 when I was just eight years old “BET is garbage.” While my siblings watched hours of toxic programming on BET, I did other stuff instead. Somehow I understood very early on the most powerful way to show a network you don’t want what they’re selling is to simply turn off the TV.

    Also these shows are not reality TV. You want REALITY TV? Turn on the evening news. THAT is reality TV. As has been said by many others, there isn’t a shred of truth to ANY of these shows being packaged as “Reality TV”. The phrase itself was coined about 16 years ago with emergence of Survivor, Big Brother and American Idol.

    it makes me think of the punchline of a video game I wrote a review for last year. At the end of the game, the final boss states what people see in the programming she created is what the viewer wants to see the most. Everyone watching will of course get a different experience even if they’re in the same room.

    This isn’t mere capitalism and clever marketing. This is a complete and utter disregard for all sense of decorum.

    Let’s be honest: The other races know this crap is not how black people really are. What they REALLY want to know is why so many black people watch it. My explaination is simply learned helplessness. Not just through entertainment but education and even family. Tell people they’ll never amount to anything enough times and they will start to believe it.

    This is why I blog personally.

    I write, therefore I am.

    ~Brendan Aurabolt
    http://sereneadventure.wordpress.com/

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    • Toiah
      May 4, 2014

      Good stuff Brendan. I will check out your blog!

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  12. Jeanny
    May 4, 2014

    I don’t have cable, Kids at home have to either read, write, play outside or create something.
    Period.
    I get news from the paper, CNN online or search it up at the library.
    I get DVDs of the “good shows” like Cosby or “Little house on the Prairie” – timeless with great lifelong lessons for all.

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    • T. L.
      May 6, 2014

      Same for me…I purposely don’t have cable and I get news by internet! Most TV is garbage, even the main media news is censored! T.V. is destroying a generation and making them numb, desensatized to death, murder, and all kinds of other acts. It has shut down brains of inventors and thinkers, just as the video games and drugs have!

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    • Shemeca Biglow
      May 9, 2016

      Rochelle Groves, your comment is genius. You hit the nail right on the coffin with that one. Everything you said is exactly how I feel as well. The home upbringing is where children will be mostly influenced and the actions of what the parents allow their children to do. Teaching them right from jump early in life will develop values and morals.in children that will protect their minds from being influenced by trash tv when they do see it later in life such as their adolescent, teen, and young adult years.

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  13. Kendrick Freeman
    May 5, 2014

    Do we really blame the TV companies or should we blame the people…Some black people have and will do anything to be famous

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    • Toiah
      May 5, 2014

      I blame all parties involved.

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      • Stacy-Ann
        May 14, 2014

        Exactly, everyone is responsible, Vh1, the “actors and actressess” and the people who religiously watch this mess. I grew up with the Cosby’s and its sad that this is what my children have to watch if they want to see black people on tv. Needless to say, I cut my cable. I know I could get it on dvd but it would be great if they could have healthy modern programming that showed black people in a positive light.

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  14. Noni Ayana
    May 5, 2014

    The images portrayed on these shows may not represent me, but that doesn’t stop the public from assuming I am what they see in the media. These reality TV images are highly influential and because there is no balance, the world is only shown one view. There is this continued obsession with Black dysfunction and the AA community perpetuates this world view of Blacks due to a distorted sense of validation: money, fame, and status. Relevance is the trap. Those women are merely puppets, unfortunately and unknowingly young Black girls are aspiring to be the same. To many image is everything, but perception is the true ruler.

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    • Toiah
      May 5, 2014

      Exactly Noni.

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    • Toiah
      May 5, 2014

      Thank you sharing this. I will be sure to watch!

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  16. Sani
    May 5, 2014

    At the end of the day…let them do what they do…they have plenty of white shows that do the same things. Why when it comes to us we are always supposed to be the most upright please…that is another form of brainwashing. Secondly who cares what “others” think. That is black peoples problem right now worrying about “others.” Worry about your own self your family. At the end of the day those people don’t represent me. Does the owner of Playboy represent every white man? Come on people. Like every race there is the good bad and ugly. So please! Stop worrying about other races and learn something about your own race…..learn some positive things.. I am tired of black people always talking bad about each other…come on!!!

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  17. Jgillsj1
    May 5, 2014

    The reality is adults can chose for themselves but for those adults whom allow their children to set bedside with them and watch this crap,..it becomes their reality, their norm, their accepted practices. We can be in denial all we want but music and media has influence on our youth. And, the only way to bridge the gap is to spend more time with them demonstrating what we desire while engaging them (those old enough to watch) about the show and their thoughts on it. As well as ensuring your children are kept busy enough with cultural, sports, social and/or academic activities that will leave little to no time for such foolery.

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    • Toiah
      May 5, 2014

      That’s exactly right.

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  19. BLACK SULAYMAN
    May 6, 2014

    ONE BLACK FAMILY I LOVE YOU ALL PEACE!!!!

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    • Toiah
      May 6, 2014

      Love you too Brother!

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  20. Sidney B
    May 6, 2014

    I totally agree! It’s ridiculous how we allow ourselves to be exploited.

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  21. allthingsnewblogger
    May 6, 2014

    I don’t think its necessarily destroying the black community. I just think its shedding light on this part (these people) of the black community. does it look bad? heck yeah…i’d rather it not be publicized so then the world can make generalizations that ALL black people are like this. =/ life.

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    • Toiah
      May 6, 2014

      Exactly my point! Where is the positive reality TV portrayal of the black community?

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  22. Gary J
    May 6, 2014

    These so called reality shows are what they are is crap, and anyone who watches this mess and thinks that this good tv should have their head examined. They have a way of putting stuff out their that destroys people and show us in a negative life, remember they have put the sheets up, They have Three Piece Suits

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  23. msjae2u
    May 7, 2014

    Do you really think that if they start putting positive things on the TV would a majority of would watch it. When u watch The First 48 the majority of the crime is in black communities and has been going on for years before these shows came on. Maury, Jerry Springer, etc. All play a part in this also. I don’t see anyone saying anything about how the judicial system playing on our side. There will be always a degrading aspect on our race regardless if we stand tall our not. It’s schools who don’t allow black people in their sororities and deny applications to even enter their schools. If they have at least one of us in that shows that they have diversity. Ha. Don’t try to say it’s just these shows because all of this was going on before they even appeared no one just didn’t speak on it. Half of these things shown on here is what some kids were raised seeing in their own homes with their parents. The bill Cosby showed what we all dream of a perfect household whose kids didn’t misbehave or the parents were always happy. Please get real.

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    • Toiah
      May 7, 2014

      Getting real & ignorance are two different things. Cosby was a situation comedy. These shows are about people & their real ratchet lives… And it certainly isn’t my reality.

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  24. msjae2u
    May 7, 2014

    Community (and Degrading Women):

    Do you really think that if they start putting positive things on the TV would a majority of would watch it. When u watch The First 48 the majority of the crime is in black communities and has been going on for years before these shows came on. Maury, Jerry Springer, etc. All play a part in this also. I don’t see anyone saying anything about how the judicial system playing on our side. There will be always a degrading aspect on our race regardless if we stand tall our not. It’s schools who don’t allow black people in their sororities and deny applications to even enter their schools. If they have at least one of us in that shows that they have diversity. Ha. Don’t try to say it’s just these shows because all of this was going on before they even appeared no one just didn’t speak on it. Half of these things shown on here is what some kids were raised seeing in their own homes with their parents. The bill Cosby showed what we all dream of a perfect household whose kids didn’t misbehave or the parents were always happy. Please get real.

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  25. msjae2u
    May 7, 2014

    It doesn’t have to be your reality. But it is a reality. So you want people to be shown as perfect and nothing but success ? Everyone has their secrets and things hidden. But when it comes to light everyone wants to be shocked. I seen plenty of women who act this way and still collect checks from owning businesses lawyers doctors nurses on the every day basis. I work in a hospital and these ppl you want to portray as great individual are some the most ill mannered people I have ever seen. My thing is I grew up on black on black crime parents beating o Beach other kids smoking weed at young ages kids having sex at young ages. In my opinion if it were white people on that screen doing the same thing no one would a comment on here. It’s true we do these things we are st human and can’t be judged by other people who think that there ish don’t stink. Like I said get real. Entertainment is entertainment. Let it go.

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    • Toiah
      May 8, 2014

      Those are unfortunate circumstances that you had to witness at such a young age. I understand entertainment is entertainment but there is nothing entertaining about fighting, arguing and toxic relationships. Which is what these shows are full of!

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    • Chris
      May 23, 2014

      The reason why we grew up on black on black crime is because they (people in power) saw what the civil rights movement did, saw what organized people can do. So they introduced drugs to a greedy few, who introduced it to our neighborhoods, and it was done hill from their. Look at us in the 60s, then look at us in the 70s, then look at the 80s. Crack hit and it was over. The issues were lost, the community was broken, and we started to kill our own for territory, money, and what ever else. There are other factors that play here too.

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      • Toiah
        May 23, 2014

        I agree! That crack epidemic really put some serious problems into motion!

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  26. msjae2u
    May 7, 2014

    Sorry about the grammar I’m doing this from my phone and auto correct is killing me.

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  27. dani
    May 14, 2014

    Bottom line is not everyone is going to be smart enough to steer clear of these negative influences. If these people want to grow into uneducated adults by following these models that’s what they are going to do. That’s why the white people put them in prominent positions to dumb blacks down. However the ones that know better let’s continue to be the elite few educate ourselves become engineers, doctors and Lawyers and raise or kids better. Some black folks really don’t want to be anything intelligent in life. That’s just it.

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  28. Jo
    May 14, 2014

    I hope the folks at the Tom Joyner Morning Show can take heed of this article.

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  29. Taalibah Corley
    May 16, 2014

    This is why I dont watch tell-lie-vision

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    • Toiah
      May 16, 2014

      Ha! Good one!

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  30. pmurraymusic
    May 18, 2014

    I’ve railed against these kinds of programs, not just because they denigrate Black American women, but all women in general. All the “Wives” shows, all the Love, Dating, Marriage, and Competition shows do little else but portray women – of all races & cultures – as negative, zealous, violent, selfish, unimaginably promiscuous creatures with nothing to lose besides their self-worth. It’s a grim reminder of who still holds the reigns when it comes to mainstream media (i.e. rich White men w/preconceived, misogynistic, backwards notions about how women are to be portrayed in the public eye). Don’t think for a second that they have a fraction of sympathy for anyone involved with these “reality shows;” as long as there is profit to be made, the programs will run. Remember that this is a dying industry on which too many people are depending to eek out a paycheck.

    Additionally, as an Out Man of Color, it saddens me to say that my demographic doesn’t help the situation either, since many of us are not only some of the biggest consumers of this trash, but co-creators and co-stars as well.

    To be fair, however, it’s not that women (or men) DON’T have the capability to act like this, or that it shouldn’t be part of the mainstream media culture; folks are going to do what they do, whether the camera is on or off (as has been shown in the various satellite news reports on several “reality” series “actors” and their criminal/deviant behavior). My wish for every media platform to at least provide real **Balance** to their programming, to at least TRY to present programming that shows just as much legitimately positive representations of women as they do negative ones. There is an undeniably strong, public outcry for this, and the fact that it’s being ignored by network executives is fallacy on their part, even if only from an economic standpoint. We are in an instant-gratification-technology world; denying the people what they want in terms of media consumption is tantamount to pouring gasoline on your media profits and lighting the match.

    Their response, of course, would be that there is plenty of positive representation on “other” networks to provide said balance; I call bullshxt on all of that. Until Viacomm presents series that positively portray women & relationships on networks like VH1, MTV, or Bravo, they are lying to the faces of their customers and getting away with it. And now, with media conglomerates grabbing control of internet access through litigation, the stakes are higher than ever, and we as consumers of said media have a choice: either we fight their continued assault on our minds & way of life, or we continue to sit at our computer & TV screens, moaning about how “reality” series are ruining our lives. Time to wake up, folks. This is a microcosm of what’s really going on, and it’s far from over.

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  31. pmurraymusic
    May 18, 2014

    I’ve railed against these kinds of programs, not just because they denigrate Black American women, but all women in general. All the “Wives” shows, all the Love, Dating, Marriage, and Competition shows do little else but portray women – of all races & cultures – as negative, zealous, violent, selfish, unimaginably promiscuous creatures with nothing to lose besides their self-worth. It’s a grim reminder of who still holds the reigns when it comes to mainstream media (i.e. rich White men w/preconceived, misogynistic, backwards notions about how women are to be portrayed in the public eye). Don’t think for a second that they have a fraction of sympathy for anyone involved with these “reality shows;” as long as there is profit to be made, the programs will run. Remember that this is a dying industry on which too many people are depending to eek out a paycheck.

    Additionally, as an Out Man of Color, it saddens me to say that my demographic doesn’t help the situation either, since many of us are not only some of the biggest consumers of this trash, but co-creators and co-stars as well.

    To be fair, however, it’s not that women (or men) DON’T have the capability to act like this, or that it shouldn’t be part of the mainstream media culture; folks are going to do what they do, whether the camera is on or off (as has been shown in the various satellite news reports on several “reality” series “actors” and their criminal/deviant behavior). My wish for every media platform to at least provide real **Balance** to their programming, to at least TRY to present programming that shows just as much legitimately positive representations of women as they do negative ones. There is an undeniably strong, public outcry for this, and the fact that it’s being ignored by network executives is fallacy on their part, even if only from an economic standpoint. We are in an instant-gratification-technology world; denying the people what they want in terms of media consumption is tantamount to pouring gasoline on your media profits and lighting the match.

    Their response, of course, would be that there is plenty of positive representation on “other” networks to provide said balance; I call bullshxt on all of that. Until Viacomm presents series that positively portray women & relationships on networks like VH1, MTV, or Bravo, they are lying to the faces of their customers and getting away with it. And now, with media conglomerates grabbing control of internet access through litigation, the stakes are higher than ever, and we as consumers of said media have a choice: either we fight their continued assault on our minds & way of life, or we continue to sit at our computer & TV screens, moaning about how “reality” series are ruining our lives. Time to wake up, folks. This is a microcosm of what’s really going on, and it’s far from over.

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  32. shunpwrites
    May 21, 2014

    It is with much pride that I am totally clueless about the confines of Reality TV. But, sadly a quick jaunt through my social media feed informs me that a great number of people watch and embrace this foolishness as the “gospel”.

    It is a shame!

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  33. Myssdee
    May 21, 2014

    Why does it have to take a show on VH1 where the cast acting like a damn fool for people to start caring about the black community ?

    There are a lot of things that is doing more damage to predominantly black communities.

    Do we have the same outrage when there are youngsters killing each other?
    Do we get mad when there are budget cuts to public schools affecting their education?
    Do we get involve in community programs?
    Do we try and save the community programs that could be affected by budget cuts?

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    • Toiah
      May 21, 2014

      I agree. There is so much more to be done. These shows just happen to bring certain things to light that I find deplorable.

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  34. ontheheir
    May 22, 2014

    Reblogged this on OnTheHeir and commented:
    I couldn’t have possibly written a better article!

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      Thank you!

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  35. Micah
    May 23, 2014

    I use to watch the original basketball wives because it was somewhat entertaining. I was also 19/20 yrs old so i just watched it. I like evelyn. But after awhile the show was just pointless. None of them was a wife except shaq wife who is now divorced. So the shoe made no sense. It was too much drama. I think they were acting ever part of the show because they we now exes and needed the money. The women on the show degrated themselves by fighting over the stupidest things. As black women we need to come together. But if a female is on the phone with another female talkin about a female every other word is “hoe, bitch, slut” its anything to put the pther one down. I do not understand black women or women in general. Women would let a man come between a friendship. Smh. But kids watching these kinds of shows thinks its ok to have sex at such a young age. Kids will think its ok for a boy to talk to them any kind of way. Theres a cycle creating. More and more preteens and teens are getting pregnant or having sex. Parents need to teach our little girls the right way a boy is suppose to treat her. But if the mother is getting treated like crap the daughter is going to think its ok…

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  36. Ty Bailey
    May 24, 2014

    The mistake is to believe that the people behind these type of shows are interested in just in profit and not the extermination of black people. Anyone reading this should take time to watch Maafa21 on YouTube which describes the lengths that White America has gone to to destroy us, even in the womb. The Company that owns MTV, BET, and VH1 is Viacom, which research shows is one of the largest investors in private prisons. The change can be seen after Robert Johnson sold his ownership of BET ow the programming changed from positive images to the most disgusting acts of buffoonery. But these same people are also powerful forces in the Music industry. The Art of War knows that to kill an enemy physically is risky to make that enemy want o kill himself is risk less. And so by broadcasting sound waves of violence, murder and destruction laced to the sweetest beats the ears can hear we come to sing the songs of our own demise, as we watch movies and reality shows showing and praising ignorance we come to devalue our community and ourselves. Because if “niggas ain’t shit, I am a nigga, therefore I ain’t shit” this is the unspoken statement expressed both verbally and visually, two children everyday in our communities. These also happen to be the two most important avenues for (television and radio) programming the mind. A man cannot rise above his level of thinking for as we think so we do. If ” niggas ain’t shit is the unspoken thought” then how could divorce, prison rates and death rates not be the highest in our community. These attack must be seen as a concentrated effort and not taken individually so that the clear picture can be seen. The solution however, is not merely organization for the organization of broken individuals will only further perpetuate incompetence. The key lies in tapping that part of the mind where our deepest power lies. For within each person lies an untapped field of greatness. If more of us understood the value of meditation and the power of the breath which in all African language mean Spirit, then we would find that the Keys to the Kingdom are within.

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  37. BringCOSBYback
    May 24, 2014

    The Cosby Show, It’s A different world, Moesha, Sister Sister, Fresh prince…These are the only “reality shows” I know. I don’t watch Vh1 unless there is a good movie on (which hasn’t been the case lately) or something POSITIVE about music…which is what I thought Vh1 was supposed to be about anyways…The only time I watch BET is if there is a Gospel show on…which, sadly, are also going downhill. I really find pleasure in watching good old shows like: Good times, the Jeffersons, Cosby…You get the idea 🙂 (and i’m only 20!…SHOCKER right?!)
    Watch some of these shows for a while…you will definetly SEE a difference AND… you actually might learn something, get a laugh or two, have a better influence for your children, and you won’t have to worry about drama, foolishness, cussing, and Buffoonery.

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    • Toiah
      May 24, 2014

      The shows you mentioned are great! And they are relevant for any age & time.

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  38. vacifra
    May 24, 2014

    I don’t think these shows are the problem persay, I think it’s the parents who are letting these shows raise their kids that is the real problem. When I was younger, I would sneak and watch my generations version of these shows like Bad Girls Club, The Real World, and really any other extremely ratchet reality series (there weren’t really any all black cast in the 90s or early 00s). I think the worst thing that happened is that I picked up some profane language and finger snapping habits, but never did I once aspire to be like them my mother was a single mom with three kids and I watch her struggle everyday. She never romanticized the struggle or put herself on a pedestal about being both mommy and daddy, she always taught me that in order to have a happy family you needed a committed mom and a committed dad. She taught me to respect myself and make good decisions so when I would see the girls of reality tv doing something different, I wouldn’t want to emulate that, I just laughed at it. My mother made it a point to raise me to want more for myself than she had for herself and no amount of reality television could change that. VH1 needs to do better, I’ll agree, but they are not the real problem.

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      I agree! I used to love the Real World too. LOL! When values are first taught and enforced at home, children won’t be so easily influenced… But what about those that are basically raised via TV? My concern is lack of positive content. We live in a media age and we are exposed to so much. I want them to have positive things to look at.

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  39. You couldn’t have said this any BETTER!!! I was contributing to the BS “reality” content VH1 was exposing. After working on the show for 3 months my spirit was completely drained! As a black woman its important that we highlighted and portrayed in a positive light, the younger generation is becoming disgustingly brainwashed and blind-sided by what is going on in the world. I could not sit around and watch these 20 something year old young men and women “turnt up” when the camera starts rolling!!! I love the quote: “We’re becoming a pack of brain dead vegetables obsessing over things that really don’t matter” wake up people!!” The problem is bigger than VH1 but if the 1st step is quitting a ratchet production like Love and Hip Hop…. I’M WINNING!! One person, one step at a time!

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      WOW!! You worked on the show? Thank you so much for responding. An actual insider (smile).

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      So proud of you for sticking to what you believe! I’m sure quitting wasn’t easy but when your spirit is disturbed, you must go… Something much better will come along for you! (If it hasn’t already.)

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  40. STACE
    May 25, 2014

    What we’re seeing are THE NEW NEGRO minstrel shows of the modern age.. the fights due to “verbal backstabbing” thanx to creative “editing” is supposedly some sort’a high profile twist with music hasbeens & wannabees in’da Mix.. While being fashionably attired in Gucci, Versace & Louie these IDIOTS are what Malcolm X would’ve surely called HOUSE NEGROS. Only to happy to take what VH-1(slavemaster) and the Black Production Company(overseer) is offering..

    A SHITLOAD of money for helping to get these FOOLS BUCK DANCIN!

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      Cooning for sure!

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  41. Peace Sun
    May 26, 2014

    That was the point of the post to teach what is unseen and half these ignorant comments,shows the mentality of the kind of people who fall for that shti,trust me,if they look like clowns,we all look like clowns…geesh..wake up folk!

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  42. Rich_whiteguy
    May 26, 2014

    “white america did this to us with the war on drugs”
    last time I checked drug use is a choice. As is having multiple children with different parents. If black people like the retard who wrote this article hate America so much why don’t you move back to Africa? Oh, what’s that, Africa is a shitshow? Funny how that works out..
    It’s called personal responsibility. Something blacks and hispanics would do well to learn. When a white family lives in poverty and engages in the sort of behavior common in the inner cities (drug use, multiple children out of wedlock, violence) they are called white trash by society. Yet we say nothing when a “Rayshawn” born to a single mother on welfare in a housing project kills someone. Al Sharpton, Jesse Jackson, Barack Obama and Oprah sure love to come out against racism when some idiot like Donald Sterling says some dumb shit. But when it comes to actually solving problems and addressing the reality of the situation they fall silent.
    What makes the minorities living in the “hood” any different from poor whites in country. VH1 didn’t force these idiots to have a bunch of children with a bunch of different baby-daddies. That was their choice. If Black America didn’t watch this shit, VH1 wouldn’t air it.
    Look up what Bill Cosby had to say about the socio-economic issues facing blacks and hispanics today. Strive to do better, and in a few generations you will be able to join the ranks of mainstream America. (Obviously a ton of black people have, which is great, but if you look at the stats blacks and hispanics lag behind whites and asians in education and income levels.)

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  43. meanmcclean
    May 27, 2014

    I started to post this as a reply but I’d rather air my opinion on this subject to all..
    The few represent the many when the few have millions of viewers tuning in week in week out. I see in the comments a lot of delusional people whose thought process is the reason why these shows continue to air and generate ratings. These shows are the reason that it was OK for Solange to assult Jay-z in an elevator. These shows are the reason that was even a relevant point for me to use in my argument to make a point. These shows glorify fighting, being a real B****, or a Real N****. The perpetuated use of the n-word disgusts me. Why would we as a people glorify or defend the use of such an ugly word? Why would we fight vigorously to determine who can and who can’t use it, while at the sametime glorify it through music and shows like these. It’s the definition of insanity. As awhile black people need to wake up. You may not associate yourself with these types of black folk, but best believe you are associated by your peers of other races on a daily. That’s why now it’s law to continue to fine and lock up black men for sagging their pants. I bet you think that’s OK as well? I’m not a fan of that look but to criminalize someone’s dress attire stomps all over our freedoms. Continue to live in denial that these shows or music has no influence. Just know, we can no longer sit idly by and ignore these problems. It’s time to boot the N**** out of our society.

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  44. Jaz
    May 27, 2014

    First of all, Real Housewives is Bravo not VH1, get the facts straight. Second of all, all black people can not be placed in the same category, I am my own person with my own thoughts and my own personality. Why is that every time you want to place black people all in the same category you go for the bad first? We have very successful Black people that I would rather be placed in a category more than the folk referenced in this article. Third of all, television is supposed to be entertainment, we all know that “reality t.v.” is not really reality, it’s scripted. When we go back to thinking on our own and raising our kids and not allowing t.v or society to do it we might be in a better place.

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  45. Jazz
    May 27, 2014

    If the parents cant tell the child that what they’re watching is what not to do then something is wrong. But why is the child watching that in the first place? There is a such thing as parental controls. These tv stars doing the same thing everybody else trying to do which is to make money. If they want to degrade themselves and act like monkeys by all means let them. Its only soo much you can tell GROWN PEOPLE. At the end of the day, if people dont like whats going on simply don’t watch but thats hard to do because these people know how draw people in even the people who watch just to see how bad they’re making themselves look. Overall, nobody is forcing noone else to watch this stuff so gain a little self control and leave people alone.

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  46. Sasha
    May 27, 2014

    Wow…although I understand the premise of the article, if parent’s took responsibility for instilling values or should I say old fashioned values in their children, they wouldn’t have to worry about this form of entertainment being inspiration.

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  47. Yves Jeannis RNG Basketball
    May 28, 2014

    This is why i started a company called RNG Basketball because this world is slowly falling apart but it comes from all colors do not just look at black men and women we are all helping this happen …. I live by the saying BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD ……. This is why all the kids i work with I teach them how important it is to understand who they are as an individual a well as love who they are as an individual take ownership to who you are first and what you want in life then go out and give back make a change. To many people want to talk about things or leave comments about things and that is all they will do but yet they feel strong about the topic so again if you want something done it starts with you as people that are still on this earth and can do something that will make that change you so badly talk down on but do nothing to start. I would not even be talking on this topic if I did not start my company RNG Basketball last year cause i would not have the right to talk about change that i feel is needed but all i did was talk. Every Human no matter sex age or race is the same we make our self different it is not about the money you have or the fame you have it is about the choices in life that make us different no matter what everyone of us is one mistake away from being locked up no matter what color race or sex yes some color have more locked up stats but then look at how those colors think and act so again if you want to make a change in this world it starts with you as an individual and then you go out and start that change but you must live it to teach it …………………….

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      That is amazing!!

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  48. Camellia
    May 28, 2014

    I think that ALL reality shows are bad in whether it’s Basketball Wives, ATL housewives, Mafia wives, Hollywood housewives. Regardless of the financial status or ethnicity. They all are selling themselves short for the almighty dollar#

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      I think the vehicle of reality tv can be great, depending on what you are doing and talking about. These shows have nothing but drinking, fighting and acting ridiculous.

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  49. Christina
    May 28, 2014

    Real Housewives of Atlanta airs on Bravo, by the way. lol

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  50. Boop
    May 28, 2014

    As a young woman who grew up in the 90’s, I have to say that this is NOT news. I appreciate the fact that it has been brought up though! These reality shows are in-your-face disrepectful to our race including Hispanics (which I happen to be both Hispanic and African American). But this certainly targets the women the most which hurts me because there’s no sign of sisterhood ANYWHERE! Women put one another down moreso for the sake of being on “top” or being popular for being, excuse my french, a b!tch. It’s beyond degrading!

    But let’s face it, America and its media developers control the airways and television shows to keep us distracted from problems all over the world!
    Remember Jerry Springer? All colors, shapes and sizes were degraded on that show. I mean EVERYONE! America doesn’t care if you’re black, white or purple. As long as it is generating green, they air it. African Americans and Hispanics just seem to get stuck to the fly paper faster than any race!

    Trust me, there are white women who actually WISH they could cause such degradation to themselves for money; it’s the American way.

    Let’s focus on OUR people though. Let’s bring back after school programs. Let’s keep these young women focused on their lives as far as goals and careers! Let’s get them thinking for themselves!
    I speak more truth btw…follow me on twitter. @depthbeautygrit 😉

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      There actually are women of all races who degrade themselves for money as well… Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Bad Girls Club, etc. Ratchet has no color. Ha!

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  51. The Black Jane
    May 28, 2014

    Honestly, I don’t think VH1 is as detrimental to the black community as unemployment/underemployment, climate change/environmental issues, street violence, and public health/nutritional deficiencies. Poverty is our biggest issue.

    Truth be told, there wouldn’t be as many lemmings if black people had the resources to support their families and communities (financially and timewise), obtain adequate education, adequate pay, adequate housing, stay healthy at an affordable rate. (And this is not just a problem affecting black America, but the whole country.) We’d be able to create innovate more effectively and create our own media content.

    If you don’t know what I mean, just look up the Second Bill of Rights or the Poor People’s Campaign…

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    • Toiah
      May 28, 2014

      I agree wholeheartedly… Those issues are definitely pressing. We should have shows that focus on the things you mentioned and how to overcome them!

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  52. eric
    May 28, 2014

    Great article of the real truth. Those black people who don’t like are part of the project of being docile, domesticated and physiological enslaved.

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  53. KJ
    May 29, 2014

    I have conversations with my mom about this topic often, and one thing I always have to ask is this…Since when did we rely on television to set appropriate standards for society or in the raising of children? Everyone wants to be upset about the networks that put the shows on the air, but all of the responsibility lies with the viewers. The author told a story about the 1st grader that wanted to be a “basketball wife”. Why is nobody concerned about the fact that this 1st grader even knew what a basketball wife is? Where are her parents when she is watching the show enough to know that she wants to be one? You want to control what your children are exposed to, don’t go after the billion dollar network, there is a better solution. It’s called the parental control option. Every cable and satellite provider has one, SET IT UP!! Block the channels and shows too mature for your young children. Stop buying your children iPhones and iPads and androids that are made for adults and giving them access to all of this adult content because it will shut them up for a few hours. How did your parents shut you up for a few hours when they needed a break? I bet they didn’t hand you an iPad. For the adults, your option is very simple too. Change the channel. There are three types of people that I have found watch reality tv; those that relate, those that appreciate that type of entertainment, and those who want something to talk about. Until the people want better for themselves, you can’t force them. Right now there are millions of people that embarrass themselves for the world for free using outlets like world star and YouTube. It starts in the home and in the community. So don’t blame vh1, they just give the people what they want. Blame the people.

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    • Toiah
      May 29, 2014

      I’m with you… My mom didn’t allow me to watch a bunch of TV. I got one hour a week…. Thursday nights with Cosby Show and Different World. I was more of a book worm (and I still am)… However, kids today are exposed to so much more than we were. With the internet, there is easy access to all sorts of shows…

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  54. jess
    May 29, 2014

    Don’t blame VH1,blame the people who sign up for it. VH1 don’t force them to act the way that they do.

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    • Toiah
      May 29, 2014

      Ha! Good point.

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  55. The truth
    May 29, 2014

    With all the bullshit going on in the world with black people as a whole these excuses make me wonder how black people even live with themselves knowing they are ok with this. I am so sick ad tired of everybody trying to be a gangster women trying to be models for the wrong reason. You can be as creative and eccentric as you want! But when millions are watching you and inspired by you it puts you in a position to want glory for all. Not bringing all of your followers down with you. Why can’t people have a liking to positive people. All niggas ever talk about is chief keef this or housewives that. Like come one you’re barely out of high school but you trying to end your life already. You’re trying to be a hooker already. It’s not just accountability with adults it’s kids too. Can’t blame old people or young people it’s everybody. It’s like we feed on shooting and having sex and stealing from each other. But when it comes to promoting common sense and intelligence it turns into and argument.

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    • Toiah
      May 29, 2014

      Well when the media portrays this type of behavior as glamorous, what do you expect the children to emulate? We need positive content. That’s my point.

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  56. cngmbb
    May 29, 2014

    “White America did this to us with the War on Drugs”

    Your writing was persuasive until this was brought in. Whether you live in “White America” or not, it’s either you do an illegal act or not.As a woman, you should understand why there is a war on drugs. Domestic violence increases, family stability decreases, and the rate of violence increases. Coming from Flint, the amount of deaths and violence i’ve seen due to drugs alone, African American’s killing African American’s, is overwhelming.

    It has to do with education, access to employment, and African American culture that has been dominated by shows like this, and music, that has led you to eloquently point the blame on “White America”. Alcohol, marijuana and HARD drugs have a devastating affect on the African American community. (The reason I say marijuana separately is because it’s not a hard drug, but causes a good amount of violence when it comes to selling and dealing and the easiest for young people to be arrested for).

    I think the most frustrating thing as a white female in Flint is that I see when people leave Flint, then never return to give back and help the younger generation to understand that drugs, and the drug trade, is not a necessity to get them by. Many leave without coming back to give back to schools to change the next generation, without setting up programs, being a mentor, and then get frustrated at “White America” for holding the younger kids back and not doing more for their community.

    I think this statement is ignorant when it comes to why things are happening the way they are in the African American community, and the blame is being focused on the easiest target.

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  57. southernsistahspeaks
    May 29, 2014

    Reblogged this on southernsistahspeaks Blog and commented:
    What we are seeing on VH1, and other shows is a reflection of just how low the standard has become. I totally agree with Dr. Watkins that yes VH1, and even some drama shows are aiding in the destruction of women, and our community as a whole. Check out his commentary, and chime in on what you think. Yes, its also about accountability…but these shows would not exist if it didn’t have ratings. We can’t stop VH1 from creating this foolishness, but we do not have to support it. We do not have to lend out time, and conversation to this nonsense. Unless we are trying to fix the problem it should be shunned in our community. Those that have their “claim to fame” on these degrading shows should be ostracized by black community. We have so much we need to work on as a people or digression is inevitable.

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  58. whoisamberjanae
    June 1, 2014

    Reblogged this on whoisamberjanae.com.

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  59. Kyle Fam Finley
    June 2, 2014

    First off, let me put it out there that i’m White with a black girlfriend of 8 years and a biracial son, so i am pretty well “in-tune” with the black community. Although me being white may make some people render my opinion useless, i’m still gonna speak my mind about ONE issue that i have with this article…

    My issue is with the statement “White America did this to us with the war on drugs”. If you’re caught with drugs, then its not “White America’s” fault, that’s your fault for being in possession of drugs. To blame that on “White America” is ridiculous. Don’t get me wrong, i know black people are sometimes treated unfair and deal with heavier consequences, witch is WRONG 100%, And i know a million other injustices that black people have to endure, BUT, that’s a whole different subject.

    Bottom line, if you’re doing something wrong/illegal and you get caught, how can you blame that on ANYONE but YOURSELF????

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  61. Ruben
    October 8, 2014

    Oh my goodness! Incredible article dude! Thank you so
    much, However I aam having difficulies with your RSS.
    I don’t know wwhy I can’t subscribe too it.Is there
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    • Toiah
      October 8, 2014

      Hi Ruben,

      Thank you for visiting. I am not sure why you are experiencing problems. There is a subscribe button on the right hand side. Try it again and if it doesn’t work, let me know.

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  62. Tamari
    October 21, 2014

    5 -10 years ago VH1 was all about rock of love and daisy of love, blah, blah, blah. They make shows on what gets the highest rating, so it seems to me that until society as a whole stops giving these fucked up people on these shows there time were gonna see more and more.

    So don’t blame the people on or making the show for it, because if there wasn’t a demand they wouldn’t b employed.

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    • Toiah
      October 21, 2014

      I agree Tamari!

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  63. domici
    December 25, 2015

    Im an black man & its so sad to see the ignorance and fighting among black people on Television!! When i heard Souldja Boy ( an immense Parasite in my eyes) say at the end of the day “its All about the $”, i jus wanted to disintegrate right where i stood! People “The Children are Watching”! Its not the money and ostentatious material things that sustain you, its your Character and Vision that sustains you!! its really scary bcuz I’m a 34 year old man & what will the world be like when I’m a senior citizen?

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  64. Selise
    May 11, 2016

    ijs real house wives come on bravo not vh1

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